tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post3878629566553510688..comments2024-03-28T05:41:54.888-05:00Comments on The Final Chapters: SHAME ON MEluluhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11520683067915486215noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-75030573419739840272016-01-05T12:35:52.482-06:002016-01-05T12:35:52.482-06:00Maybe this will encourage your spirit, my dear fri...Maybe this will encourage your spirit, my dear friend ...<br /><br />The tragedy of guilt and shame<br />http://creeksideministries.blogspot.com/2014/06/the-tragedy-of-guilt-shame.html<br /><br />Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-46383352084866622092016-01-04T11:45:22.346-06:002016-01-04T11:45:22.346-06:00My head knows what you say is true, Victor. It is...My head knows what you say is true, Victor. It is sometimes easier to hide away than to face this head on--so I write about it in an effort to move past it! I am thankful for your support!<br />Blessings, Friend!luluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520683067915486215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-61830381805568940852016-01-04T11:43:08.962-06:002016-01-04T11:43:08.962-06:00Thanks for the rec, My Friend!. I am not finished...Thanks for the rec, My Friend!. I am not finished exploring the topic!<br />Listen to your Vox message & TALK TO ME!!!<br />Blessings, dear Friend!luluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520683067915486215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-32357264761444086332016-01-04T11:41:57.620-06:002016-01-04T11:41:57.620-06:00More to come on this subject, Friend. Tomorrow...More to come on this subject, Friend. Tomorrow's topic may well resonant with many.<br />It's a sunny cold day here in TX---my cold is in the 40's unlike your frigid in the single digits. Plan to take a walk and soak in the sunshine!<br />Blessings on you, Friend!luluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520683067915486215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-26590367697184423702016-01-04T10:36:05.233-06:002016-01-04T10:36:05.233-06:00I repeat - you have no reason to be ashamed of bei...I repeat - you have no reason to be ashamed of being divorced. If other people have a problem with you being divorced then that is their problem and not yours. It says more about them and their attitude than it says about you. You are a wonderful person who believes in God and do your best to live according to His law; and you are also divorced. Being divorced does not stop you from being a good person; and per se is nothing to be ashamed of. Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are.<br /><br />God bless you.Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-23930657906673586942016-01-04T09:15:46.219-06:002016-01-04T09:15:46.219-06:00Brene' Brown has written several excellent boo...Brene' Brown has written several excellent books concerning shame - how we get it, how it influences us, and how to get free from it. Highly recommended!g-clixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17509024028262771158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-81823900957239818062016-01-04T07:55:52.547-06:002016-01-04T07:55:52.547-06:00Ohhhhhh, I quite agree with Victor, my friend (hmm...Ohhhhhh, I quite agree with Victor, my friend (hmm...on the Catholic church, though---I will leave it at that.)---I see where he is coming from---and I also see where your coming from. As always, a very thoughtful post.<br /><br />Praying you have a beautiful week, friend. Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16466115918585699329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-51109549369644413412016-01-04T07:26:55.205-06:002016-01-04T07:26:55.205-06:00Oh, Victor, shame is so much more--than the feelin...Oh, Victor, shame is so much more--than the feeling of when we do something wrong--that is shame and guilt, Friend, The two lines down the same road--but shame can diverge and be caused by other things---even when we did no wrong. Tomorrow I look at one of the other causes of our shame---labeling. When I began to explore the topic---I soon discovered there was so much more to shame than your explanation.<br /><br />I appreciate you comments and your admonition there is no shame in divorce, but as the old saying goes--until you have walked a mile in my shoes. The entire point of this post was my acceptance of the shame the world places on me when Jesus does not point his finger at me--but wiped my slate clean---and I am not shamed in His eyes.<br /><br />As always--I am thankful for your input and enjoy our hitting the ball back and forth over the pond. If all the world felt as you do, Friend, it would be a much more beautiful place.<br /><br />Blessings!luluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520683067915486215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5416556583423635558.post-19126609881494037572016-01-04T06:34:27.203-06:002016-01-04T06:34:27.203-06:00Lulu, you are wrong, wrong and wrong again. You ha...Lulu, you are wrong, wrong and wrong again. You have no reason to feel shame for being divorced. I feel this is self-imposed shame and it should stop.<br /><br />The Catholic church, to which I belong, have lots of rules about marriage and divorce. They believe that marriage is for life and it is a vow/contract you enter with God and your partner. However, despite this dogma and belief, there have been occasions, (and I've discussed this with many priests), where priests believe that the only solution to a bad marriage, or one that has gone wrong, is divorce. A priest once explained that God meant marriage to be the union of two individuals living together happily under God's rule. But if one partner somehow wanders away from that ideal, and breaks the rule, then divorce is inevitable. It would be wrong for a marriage to continue where one partner is held prisoner by a vow made years ago and not kept by their spouse. God wants marriage to be a happy place not a living hell for either or both individuals and their offsprings. I once described to a priest an unhappy marriage I knew was taking place amongst some Catholic acquaintances of mine. He replied that if that individual came to him for advice he would tell him to divorce and get out of that relationship. <br /><br />Whatever the reasons for your divorce, it happened, and, as you say, you did not want it to happen. There is no shame here for you, Lulu. Believe it.<br /><br />You may or may not tell us of your other shames - but in reality, shame is when we do something wrong and we know at the time of doing it that it is wrong, and yet we continue and do it all the same. Like eating the apple for example. Although I believe that itself would not have happened if God commanded that they do not eat broccoli.<br /><br />Praying for you Lulu, that you may yet come to accept that there's no shame in divorce. God bless you. <br /><br />Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.com