I spent my entire professional career advising men to NOT "Take Care Of" their wives---but to include them in all the details of the business of running a home and allocating resources. When meeting with the women, I commended them on their knowledge of their family's business and encouraged them to understand all aspects of the economics of life. It was heart breaking to see a woman left alone who had been lovingly sheltered from all of this. How many times did I have a grieving widow sit before me, who was doing good to put one foot in front of the other---and now the shell shock of being thrown into the management of all that it takes to keep a family running correctly. These men, though their intentions were good, did their wives no favor. How much easier would it have been for them to have a working knowledge and understanding of the family finances.
My struggle has centered around--HUGE--decisions concerning my future--that there has been no one to discuss them with. Many times---I just need to speak the words out loud to another---to affirm I am headed to the correct decision. There no longer is anyone to listen and thus I am left with a little doubt when turning corners. There are some things that I can discuss with my children--and they have offered good advice, but there are business/investment related decisions that are not in their zone of expertise.
I also have always enjoyed great theological discussions. Nothing can get me going like a heated debate on the five points of Calvinism (another day we will talk that over). I deeply miss having another to challenge me to thinking while we are speaking of our God. Before I moved, I had a sweet group I lunched with every Sunday after church. They helped fill that gap for a time--all I had to say was "What did you think about today's message?" and we were off to the races. Iron sharpens iron---miss having that whetting stone.
BOTTOM LINE---I am making these decisions---with apprehension at times--but using a lifetime of knowledge and wisdom based upon experience---I am moving forward. I ask myself---if this goes wrong--what is the worst thing that can happen? If the worst case scenario is within the tolerable limits of loss---I proceed. PRAYER---LOTS OF PRAYER---go into each decision---No decisions are made in haste---ALL are thoughtfully mulled over before any commitment is made. THEN I make the leap of faith. I am doing the best I can with careful consideration and ultimate trust that ALL things work for good! It has not been easy--but I am just doing it!
"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see ."