You mention in a group your relative being diagnosed with some dreaded disease. They or theirs have had it and far worse. There is a driving need to then give you a blow by blow description of the entire ordeal with each and every gory detail given in living color--including sights, smells and sounds.
How many times have you shared some life altering-tragic-painful event and had it all thrown right back at you? A boomerang should work this well. Only their story -WELL suffice it to say your story became a fairy tale in comparison.
We seem to love to recount our tales of suffering AND we get stuck in the retelling of it all. We become an I Pod on repeat--with the same story--details--tragedies being told over and over. We become mired in the cess pool of "The Pride of Suffering", actually becoming a martyr with our tragic tale. Our grief is the greatest grief and no one else has ever suffered as we have.
Yes--life can be difficult--it is sometimes not fair---but there is life beyond the suffering. The challenge is not being guilty of the sin of pride in our suffering. To somehow pull ourselves out of the pit and into the light of day and refuse to tell the tale over and over. I have been guilty as charged in the past, but with practice at keeping my eyes off my navel and seeking His will--it becomes easier to have no need to get stuck in the darkness of suffering and instead seeking the joy of the blessings found all around.
After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.
I Peter 5:10