Where are my burning desires these days? As the old commercial once advertised, "They have come a LONG WAY, Baby!"
In a moment of true confession, I still have the desire to be desired. The problem with my want (certainly not a need) is the few times I have allowed myself to be placed in the company of a man--it literally knocked me for a loop. I quickly ran for the hills and never looked back. There was nothing wrong with the men--the problem stands with me. My heart goes into overdrive with even the thought of any replay of the past. Being alone is not all bad--and certainly better than ever enduring heartbreak again.
What fuels our need to be desired? Simply stated--we were created to be in a relationship. We begin jumping through hoops at a young age in an effort to draw the attention of the opposite sex. Created to pro-create--we start the search for the perfect mate not long after passing the mark in maturity called puberty. Remembering and laughing over my teenage years, the quest to have a "boyfriend" was all about popularity--seeking the highest possible strata on the social ladder. The games really ramped up about the time I hit college. Today's world does not even slightly resemble my early years. One thing remains the same--inside of or outside of marriage---we want to be desired.
The problem with this desire to be desired--is where it eventually will lead. Divorce happens---death happens---old age and infirmities happen--boredom can happen---desire will fade with time in most cases. We have placed significance in another of the fleeting things of this earth. Not unlike wealth, fame, importance, beauty, notoriety---they are all subject to vanishing in the blink of an eye---and then what do you have? The distant memory of a flame long since cooled by the ravages of time. Not to say our love lives become extinct with age--but to recognize the transformation from lust to love which is a beautiful thing. Like a fine wine---love is at its best with aging and tender care.
The World strives to convince us we only have worth if someone desires us. We live in bondage to the desire to be desired and it becomes a narcisstic quest of validating who we are and an endless search necessitated by the fear of aloneness. As Solemn so wisely tells us, "Vanity-all is vanity". All things of this world are fleeting and temporary--gone in a poof of smoke. The only thing eternal is Jesus and those He calls His Own. "The only way out of this bondage is fairly well known; desire being desired less, and desire God more. " Turn to the One who desires us--at all times--under all circumstances--faithfully and eternally. Turn to Jesus.
"Whom have I in heaven but you?
And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.