Monday, October 28, 2013


As I walk the path of grief, I am always searching for help and answers as I face what can often seem to be the insurmountable.  I recently read in an article  the acceptance of our adversity is the first step to healing and moving forward.  This began the slow process of analyzing what acceptance looks like and how to achieve it.

As I mulled it over, it dawned upon me, it takes GREAT courage to look life in the face and speak the words of what has happened.  It cuts me to the quick to speak "Divorced", but that is where I am.  What must it be like to say "Widowed or Widower"?  The words dying, terminal, incurable, disabled, bankrupt, guilty, -the list is long and the words are like boulders on the tongue--almost impossible to spit out.  Most of us will have times of great adversity and life will be filled with the potholes of pain, grief, and struggle.  What is most important is not the season of adversity, but what we do with and how we handle those struggles.

I am REALLY good at playing Job--I can sit under my tree or in my cave for hours on end--questioning God as to WHY?  That does not change the circumstance, but does reflect my non-acceptance of where I am.  Is that what God desires for me?  I suspect not, no I know not.

What God desires is my courageous acceptance of where I am--and like Job, to remember Who is the God of the Universe and how mighty and great He is.  I often say, "It is what it is.", but do I accept those circumstances in my heart?  Am I brave enough to say "Yes--I am divorced, but I am not defined by that status.  What defines me is Who I am in Christ---His beloved."  Does the world give me my name and status or does God?

I am courageous---I KNOW that---I have spent my life conquering my fears and taking steps of faith into the dangerous unknown.  Am I able to learn from the past, relish the good, forget the bad, and trust in Him?  I am courageous, I do trust Him, so what is my hold up with accepting where He has me?  My need and desire for control and to be placed in the position of dictating my life by what I see as best, and inability to turn it over to Him with faith.  It is a process--I am learning--my faith is growing--I will wear the badge of "Courageous Acceptance"

Today I am thankful for the joy that comes from the faith
that in all things--He is glorified.

"Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith;
be men of courage; be strong."
I Corinthians 16:13


  1. Just my opinion, God doesn't wanting us sitting under the tree and feeling pity (that's not the correct word I am looking for) all the time...thank you friend for having the courage to speak the truth. Blessings

    1. Thank you for always being encouraging!

  2. A good lesson as always. Hope your day is blessed. ~:)


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