As I began to ponder how we love to hear ourselves talk, I thought about the fact that we do not sound the way we think we do. When we listen to a recording of our own voice, we are shocked and surprised that it does not sound the way we hear ourselves. There are a combination of factors that cause this--all other sound reaches our inner ear through sound waves transmitted through the air. Our own voices are heard through these same sound waves, but also the internal vibrations of our vocal chords and airways. This distorts the sound and causes us to "hear" a different sound than what is actually heard by others.
Perhaps this is why we need someone to listen to our stories--we need an objective interpretation of the story---NOT how we perceive it. Internal influences--our perception, our biases, our heart, our prejudices--on and on -distort the story we hear. When we talk through life with another, we may begin to realize this is not what I thought. I have allowed my personal perception of reality to cloud the truth.
Often we don't really need any feedback from another, we only need to give voice to our story to realize we have gotten off track from the truth. Other times, we must have the feedback--take it and mull it over--and then realize our version of our voice is not the complete truth. Either way--clarity is gained by having someone you trust to bounce the story off of.
God gave us ears to listen--what a precious gift. How we listen is up to us!
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become angry.