Think I am exaggerating? I just heard this story and it happened very recently. NOW--I totally understand when the expense prohibits inviting everyone to a party. What I don't understand is why you would make a big deal of making sure everyone at school knows you are celebrating, but not everyone is invited. Why would you create a public disply of being certain others know of their exclusion? Why would a preteen cause this much pain for her classmate?
Daughters learn from their mothers how to act. Sadly--if the mother encourages this type of bullying---IT IS BULLYING--then the daughter grows up thinking this behavior is acceptable and normal. IT IS NEITHER!
The pecking order is alive and well. It was around when I was growing up. I can't put my finger on when I realized I did not fit in with the "In Crowd", but at some point in my early teen years I understood I was not "In". Never totally out--but never truly in either. One of the nicest things about maturing (nice way to say getting old) is one day you wake up and realize you do not care anymore. Though being on the inside of the socially elite is important to some--most of us came to realize a long time ago who our true friends were.
Sadly when you are 13, your psyche is just beginning to develop its social side. This kind of bullying and snubbing is unacceptable. A kind and sensitive heart is far more desirable than a slot in the socially elite. What are we teaching our children? What does this say about the value of another human being? All of this type of behavior has been around a LONG time. Protecting fragile young hearts is extremely important. Hooray for the mother in this story who declined the invitation for her daughter to be a part of this and instead invited those left out for a night out. I am thankful for those who see beyond the surface and stand up for what is right. GOOD for the mom who fights against bullying--whatever it may look like.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.