I enjoy a good riddle -   What came first the chicken or the egg?

What is white when its dirty?

What can be touched but can't be seen?

What room can no on enter?

Which came first the question or the answer?

The plague of the middle child is always needing to find an answer for  problems.  You can voice a problem to me, quite off-handedly, and never think another thought about it.  I, on the other hand, will spend the next few hours trying to come up with an answer to solve your problem.  Here is a question -

Are ALL middle children problem solvers?

I am also a peace maker.  Do NOT want any turmoil or strife in the world.  If you are at odds with someone, I want to find an answer to solve this unrest.

This is a lot to take on!  What I fail to recognize is you may need to voice the problem or strife in your life and are not looking for a solution from me.  I call this the need to bounce.  One of my strategies for solving problems and ending strife is to bounce what is going on off a trusted friend.  My daughter was in college before I learned this from hundreds of miles away.  We spoke often those early years of college.  I was always trying to solve her problems long distance.  She finally told me one day, "Mom, I just need you to listen, not solve my problem."  THERE YOU GO!

SO~ could it be that God allows us to communicate with Him through prayer with the intent of letting us bounce our problems off Him?  Could it be that we really KNOW the answer to the problem or the unrest and the answer is actually in our hands?  Could it be we are pleading for a miracle when the real miracle will be recognizing our part in the problem or strife?  I am so thankful God is not only a good listener, but patient beyond any concept I could possibly have of what patience looks like.  Could it be that God is letting me bounce my problems and disagreements off Him and waiting for me to recognize how I might solve the problem or make peace?  Answers--I am always looking for answers, but sometimes I am the answer.

"So then let us pursue what makes for peace

and for mutual upbuilding."

Romans  14:19


  1. Yes, Lulu, sometimes the answers are right in front of our noses. And we can't always solve the problems of others, even when we want to. I learned, like you, that sometimes listening is the best gift/answer you can give another.

    1. Blessed are the listeners, Martha, for they shall obtain wisdom.

  2. I don't know that I could be described as a peace-maker ... more akin to a court jester, perhaps. Nevertheless, I always want to be 'that' person with a ready solution. Unfort., not long ago I learned, unsolicited advice isn't always welcome. Being a Good Listener is a gift, indeed.

  3. I laughed out loud at the court jester. I also love for others to laugh-even if it's at my expense. I really think it's the middle child syndrome-even if it has been a LONG time since I was the middle child!

  4. Yes, God often just listens and lets us unload our problems. Eventually, we'll get to the solution.

    As for your first question of chicken and egg. I ordered both from AMAZON. I'll let you know the answer soon.

    God bless.


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