My thoughts keep circling back to the topic of  "Being Single".  I recently read an article confirming in the last US census there are more "Single, Widowed, and Divorced" women than married.  Although I am not shocked, as I read the article it confirmed God's nudging that I should address being single in my posts.  Here is a fact ---even if you are currently married, unless you die before your spouse, you WILL BE single someday--  Bottom line you will be dead or single.

Trust me on this---there are worse things than being single.  It has taken quite a few years, but I am slowly beginning to get into the grove of being alone.  NOW would I prefer a LONG and successful marriage--why certainly.  I am always warmed when I see an announcement of an anniversary of many years being celebrated.  We were created to be in relationships, and though it takes a great deal of work, it is always worth the effort.  Surviving the ups and downs of marriage is a reflection of our relationship with God.  We are teaching our children the lesson of being steadfast--even when things are hard--sometimes extremely hard.  Marriage is a work in progress and it mirrors the work in progress of our relationship with God.  The longer our marriages exist, the better we know one another---so it is with God.

For a variety of reasons, there are women and men, all around us who are single.  The test becomes NOT striving to end our single status, but living life fully in our single status.  God does not desire for us to be out on a spouse hunt.  Why poor shot that I am, I would probably bag a skunk thinking it was a lion.  God desires us to live life---AS IT IS--to the fullest and trust Him.  Put away your hunting clothes and instead don your servant gear.  He has plans for you that will blow you away--make your day--thrill your heart.  All you have to do is be patient--listen--and obey.

SO---I will have at least a couple of more posts on being single.  BUT they will come next week.  What better time to address life as a single than Valentine's week?  

Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.
Psalm 73:25


  1. ....sometimes....even when one is married, they are still single or lonely....just saying....always insightful posts, Lulu...sending you hugs.

    1. I totally understand what you are saying, Linda! You are exactly right!
      Hugs to you, My Sweet Friend!

  2. I think Linda put it well. Sometimes one can be married and still be single. I have known so many "single" marriages in my life and either or both partners are imprisoned in this institution they call marriage yet lead a single, often very miserable, life. In such cases, is divorce not the answer?

    Remember; St Paul recommended that we remain single, as indeed he was. At least he did not have the misery of a mother-in-law landing suddenly on her broom. I suggest you read this article:

    God bless you, Lulu.

    1. Yes, Victor, as I said, there are worse things than being single! I look forward to reading your post.

  3. Hi Lulu! When I read the phrase about putting away the hunting clothes and don the servant gear, I said out loud "Oh my God, that is beautiful." You have so well stated how to embrace your situation, and love where you are. My word for the year is 'Now', and you have truly given that word power here in this post.
    I hope you continue to find joy and peace in your single life. You certainly are gaining wisdom and knowledge.

  4. Thank you , Ceil, for your affirmation and encouragement ! It has certainly been a learning experience !
    Blessings !


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