One dear friend spoke at length on getting to know herself during her single years. Her wisdom bears repeating for those not on Facebook-
"As a single woman who was married for almost 38 years and to find myself without the love of my life, I had absolutely no idea who I was without him. I believe that God has used these almost 8 years to help me get to the point that I really know the real me. Not saying that I feel whole, complete or even with great purpose yet. I am a work in progress, trying to be mindful of HIS will, all while knowing that He knows my direction and where I will eventually wind up. If I am ever going to be able to love and live with anyone else, I first need to be able to embrace and love and live with Linda."
These wise words began me thinking of how much I have learned about myself the past years. Once I stepped beyond the deep grief and began to slowly emerge into my new normal---I have spent a great deal of time thinking about who I am---what do I like about me and what needs some work. It has been an enlightening period.
The bottom line---I really --for the most part-- like me. Although, there are times I am lonely, I enjoy my own company. OH---I'm human---can irritate the socks off myself at times---but over-all---I am OKAY! There are things I would like to change---improvement that can be made--but basically deep down--I have discovered I enjoy my own company and am really the type of person I want to be friends with.
So there is no cowboy as prophesied by a friend. It would be nice to have the privilege of being chosen by a Godly man--but it is not necessary to enhance my self-worth. For you see I am chosen--picked to be loved--held in high esteem---redeemed at high cost--by "The Lover Of My Soul." What more beautiful "Divine Romance" could I ask for?
You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married. For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.