Friday, January 15, 2016

I CHOOSE ME

I seem to have hit upon a winning topic yesterday--when we talked about romance.  LOTS of discussion on Facebook and here on the blog.



One dear friend spoke at length on getting to know herself during her single years.  Her wisdom bears repeating for those not on Facebook-

"As a single woman who was married for almost 38 years and to find myself without the love of my life, I had absolutely no idea who I was without him. I believe that God has used these almost 8 years to help me get to the point that I really know the real me. Not saying that I feel whole, complete or even with great purpose yet. I am a work in progress, trying to be mindful of HIS will, all while knowing that He knows my direction and where I will eventually wind up. If I am ever going to be able to love and live with anyone else, I first need to be able to embrace and love and live with Linda."

These wise words began me thinking of how much I have learned about myself the past years.  Once I stepped beyond the deep grief and began to slowly emerge into my new normal---I have spent a great deal of time thinking about who I am---what do I like about me and what needs some work.  It has been an enlightening period.



The bottom line---I really --for the most part-- like me.  Although, there are times I am lonely, I enjoy my own company.  OH---I'm human---can irritate the socks off myself at times---but over-all---I am OKAY!  There are things I would like to change---improvement that can be made--but basically deep down--I have discovered I enjoy my own company and am really the type of person I want to be friends with.



So there is no cowboy as prophesied by a friend.  It would be nice to have the privilege of being chosen by a Godly man--but it is not necessary to enhance my self-worth.  For you see I am chosen--picked to be loved--held in high esteem---redeemed at high cost--by "The Lover Of My Soul."  What more beautiful "Divine Romance" could I ask for?


You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married. For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.
Isaiah 62:3-5

13 comments:

  1. ...and your posts show far you have come, friend. (just saying)

    I about spat out my coffee with Victor's comment from yesterday---I better not say another thing...lolol. Have a beautiful day, friend.

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    1. We all love "Our Victor"! He has that knack to make us laugh!
      Friday Blessings, Friend!

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  2. You know, Lulu; if you do find a cowboy to love, as has been prophesied, I genuinely hope he is not as short as the one in the photo above. I know I mentioned this before. What use is such a short cowboy? You'll probably trip on him all the time; and have to carry him in your handbag. Whcih reminds me of a short man I met in Paris years ago.

    We were in the theatre and the performer was a short man, a mind reader called Too Loose Le Trick. He wanted a volunteer and as we were sitting up front he chose me. Unfortunately, he could not read my mind because I think in English and he only read French. He got angry on stage and shouted "Zut alors! Sapristi!" and he hit me with a French baguette.

    I tried to sue the theatre but the manager pleaded with me and offered me a piece of cheese and a brioche instead because he had no Monet. He said to me: "Victor, Hugo through the back door so no one will see you leave!"

    We left and visited the Eiffel Tower. Did you know it is made of spare Meccano pieces. The Noter Dame Cathedral is made of Lego bricks. I wonder what their ratatouille is made of?

    Anyway, later on we saw Too Loose Le Trick run past us and jump in the river because he was in Seine.

    God bless.


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    1. Wish you could have heard me laughing & the last line set me up the river!!
      Thank you , Victor/ my first laugh of the day!
      Blessings !

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  3. I like it when you laugh.

    Laughter releases dolphins within us; which is good because they tickle us from the inside. I read this in a medical book I am writing.

    God bless.

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    1. Dolphins!! Yes- we all need more Dolphins !

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  4. This is so thought-provoking, Lulu ...

    Don't you just love the results of that journey of emerging into the new normal? Right in the midst of it can be tough stuff, but when we look back, we see how far God has brought us and it causes gratitude to burst forth.

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    1. It has taken a long time to see there is really nothing wrong with me- such a wonderful discovery!
      Blessings, Friend!

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  5. Loneliness I can handle, but being poor is rough. At least with money I could buy a ranch with a cowboy (or two) on it.
    In all seriousness, though, I do understand what you're saying. It's best to be comfortable with ourselves before reaching out to others for companionship or it'll just be a mess.
    Hope your day is blessed. ~:)

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    1. Wonder if there is a "Rent a Cowboy" around these here parts! LOL!
      Yes---know yourself and be true to who you are!
      Blessings, Sparky!

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  6. OK, still betting on that cowboy!!! So thankful that God is slowly showing you your true worth. He is our Kinsmen Redeemer!! What a wonderful picture that Boaz shows us. Praising Him that you "like" yourself and hopefully realize that we are not who the eyes of the world say we are. We are who Christ meant us to be..beloved and beautiful. My heart hurts that you are lonely at times. But we always have hope for another tomorrow and life can change in an instant. Praying that your tomorrow will be marvelous!!!.

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    1. Wise words, Friend. Yes---I have a Redeemer & He desires my company. He chose me--what a blessing!
      Tomorrow---will be what He ordains & I am good with that---whatever it looks like.

      As for the cowboy--don't hold your breath---have not spotted a single one here in the city!

      Blessings!

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