There is only one problem - I cannot even fix my own problems. Thus the need for thousands of self help books written by complete strangers to give us the seven easy steps to solving all our woes, which we take as gospel and CANNOT wait to buy!
My own effort to fix it has resulted in the acknowledgement--it is not always fixable. If your leg was amputated, there would be no fixing it. You would learn to live with it and do your best to adjust--but you cannot grow another leg. There are instances in life--including death and divorce there is no way to back up and change what happened. Even a new relationship will not replace the one which ended.
Here is what I have finally come up with---some things cannot be fixed. Instead of fixing it---I have learned to live with it. All the books in the world and all the steps successfully taken will not make the problem disappear. So I have done my best to go on with my life--live each day to the fullest--and search for the joy. That does not change the circumstance in my life.
I have also learned there is nothing to be gained by talking about it--that will not fix it. Even those closest to us think after a while, we should be over it and have moved on. They are uncomfortable with our pain and circumstance, because of their inability to fix things for us. And there is no fixing it and truly in some circumstances not one thing to be gained by rehashing it.
So my answer to the self help books is a book with the title
SOME THINGS CANNOT BE FIXED
The one page will say---Learn to live with it.
There is a great deal of peace in acceptance.