With that said, I must also tell you we do not always agree on things. We are at different ends of the political spectrum. We laugh and joke about it, but we do not allow those differences in philosophy to cloud our relationship. I do not think they are raving maniacs because we don't agree politically. We see things through different eyes and with different perspectives.
As we sat and talked of serious life altering events, I listened to their advice and opinions. We all agreed our childhood and the events of life have left profound marks on our personalities. Our shared childhood traumas have drawn us closer-not driven us apart. I laughingly told my older brother the poor choices of my life had nothing to do with him--even though he worries as I suffer the consequences. It is almost impossible to shake the responsibility for us that was thrust upon him when daddy died.
Through it all--we have stuck together---we are family--and thankfully our family has never had anything occur which split us apart. With each year, I realize how important family is---bottom line---we have family--we have God--and not anything else of lasting consequence.
It breaks my heart to hear of a brother who went to sleep and did not wake up the next morning and his birth family is splintered at best. When you need each other most--there is tension and strife over the past clouding supporting each other.
When I hear of a child who has turned their back on family, and chosen to walk away without the benefit of even discussing the problem, my heart is broken for the parents. Search The Word---it is ALWAYS redeemable. Redemption will lead to reconciliation. Reconciliation can only come with talking it out and someone or everyone admitting their part in the problem and asking for forgiveness.
Pride---stands in our way---and pride always leads to the fall. I know there are circumstances in families which will never be fixed---I am deeply grieved and profoundly sorry. I pray---if there is anyway to try and talk it out---come to a mutual understanding of what is most important--you will seek reconciliation. Cling to the eternal--remember what is of greatest importance and always seek His will.
Family and God---all we have of eternal consequence.