Divorce, death, disagreement, and distance can break the strong bonds of the family circle. Life occurrences can forever alter the size and shape of the circle. A link is removed and there is a permanent alteration of the family and its dynamics. When my brothers and I are together-our parents--especially our mother- are always hovering in the room. The impact she had on our lives, after being with us for such a long time, leaves a void in the room.
When my children, grands, and I are together, there is always the void caused by the absence of their father. After a lifetime of living life as a family, his absence has created a missing link in the circle. The family unit is no longer a whole and complete picture. We have formed a different circle with his absence.
What is to be done? How do we deal with the altered circle?
As I stated in a reply to one of yesterday's comments, we must know we have done all we can do to repair the break. At different times in my life, I have asked myself- Did I do all required of me and beyond? When I put my head on the pillow, can I know I gave it my all? Am I able to sleep the sleep of ease by knowing I tried to repair the rift? Did I extend mercy--even when it was thrown back in my face? Was I obedient to God's Word?
I have a piece of jewelry which has a missing link--thanks to one of the sweet grands. It can still be clasped, but it will not stay on because the circle is broken. There is an answer---pull the remaining links together and make a new circle. In many cases the circle will be stronger than ever--depending upon how it is repaired. I love the saying
I am not a fan of Nietzche, but this has rung true in my life.
The circle may never look the same, but it can be repaired and whole again. It will be a different circle, but different is not always bad--it's just different. We cannot stay in the past, but instead must move forward into the future by accepting the present. One amazing thing I have learned about God is His faithfulness and continuous presence. He is not surprised when we have a broken circle and He will fill in the gap!
It is a sad thing when the circle is broken, but a new circle can be formed by closing ranks and holding tightly to each other. God can redeem it all---in His time and in His fashion. The circle can be reformed by drawing together. The amazing thing about circles--sometimes the smaller circles are the strongest.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.