Shame is not all bad---if you look for the definition you will find-
a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior
The concept of shame was introduced when I was a child. I remember mis-behaving and being scolded with the words, "Shame on you." Hang your head, cast your eyes upon the floor and slowly fade from the room shame. I am certain I deserved the scolding, but heaping shame upon my head, while it certainly worked, began a life long habit of clinging to the shame.
In many cases we are only shamed when we are caught--that "GOT YOU" moment fills us with shame. We feel no shame for speeding until the officer walks up to our window and tells us how fast we were going. THEN we feel so bad for our supposedly uncustomary heavy foot. After years of preparing tax returns for clients, I can promise you there was NEVER any shame expressed with getting away with stretching the eligible deductions. Shame was only admitted when the auditor called your hand on your creative accounting practices.
Currently I struggle with the shame of the designation of "Divorced". Check out all kinds of forms and documents you fill in for information. You are married, single, widowed or divorced--with no slot for any explanation. We are not allowed to forget that we failed in the marriage department--society reminds us of it over and over. There is no gentle way to say I once was married, but no longer---and unless we remarry--we carry that harsh designation with us to our graves.
What I was reminded of from the article is by carrying around this mantle of shame, I am denying God's forgiveness. If I follow the steps The Word gives us to reconciliation of a wrong, then God forgives me. He has forgotten my sin---and I am denying what He has done for me by refusing to leave the mantle of shame behind. I am discounting and denying what He has done by forgiving me by tenaciously clinging to my shame. God does not want us to live under the mantle of shame, but instead walk with our eyes raised to Him from whom our hope comes.
With most things in life, when I am unable to make a change on my own, it is time to turn up the prayers. God has faithfully answered my prayers--and when I am praying according to His will--He has answered in the affirmative. When I admit my inability under my own power to make the changes I know He desires for me, He will give me the strength and ability--if I only ask. His grace is sufficient to allow me to leave the shame behind and live in the peace that passes all understanding.
He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.