I am curious what you think about something I have noticed. My opinion is certainly only that--an opinion. There is no right or wrong answer-in fact we all just have observations. I really hope you will weigh in on this--stretch me and make me think!
We can all agree the final chapter of our earthly body involves death. " We don't get out of this alive ," is attributed to several, but no matter who said it--there is a brutal ring of truth in it. As I have grown older and certainly in the midst of this pandemic, death has become a regular visitor. This post has nothing to do with the promise of eternity, but instead has everything to do with how we are remembered.
I have observed, with death, in most cases, the bad is forgotten and in fact removed from our memory bank. I have only experienced one person pointing out the faults of their dearly departed, and I suspect it came from a place of anger over being left alone. In most cases, those who have left us become sanctified. We chose to only remember the good and put the bad or difficult behind closed doors. Why I wonder? Why refuse to admit the human side of those who have left us? Why have the need to elevate our loved ones to sainthood only once they are no longer with us? Why do we withhold the honor when they are still sitting by our side?
I have only been to a couple of funerals where the dearly departed was honestly eulogized and remembered for who they truly were. So this all begins almost immediately after departure from the physical world. We seem to be willing to extend grace and forgiveness--and truly forget the bad or hard when someone is no longer with us. We are unwilling or unable to put the difficult away as long as they are with us for some reason. Perhaps it is a form of self-protection. The old fool me once shame on you-fool me twice shame on me. Or perhaps it is the age old struggle of man against man. I am not really certain why we are only able to remember the good and truly forget the bad after the struggle on this terrestrial ball is over. All I know is, it would seem, until we are gone--others will be unable to forgive AND forget.
Am I totally off track here? Does anyone else notice this? I am not saying it is a bad thing--AT ALL. I am saying it is curious and puzzling that we can only truly forget the bad and focus on the positive with death. The good news--some day we will all be remembered in the same manner!
What say ye? I'm a big girl-let me have it if you disagree. I love the conversation--with me or against me--let me hear from you!