I also had the fascinating ability to wake from a dream which had not ended satisfactorily and go back to sleep and dream the ending I desired. Somewhere along the pipeline, I lost this ability. I do still have control dreams, but not to the extent I once did. Perhaps this is a direct reflection of the realization there is so little I truly have control over.
I have had a handful of dreams in my life, which I knew were dreams from God. Messages---words of comfort---assurances that when interpreted could only have come from Him. Perhaps the fact that I have not had more God given dreams in my life is a direct reflection of the time I have spent pursuing His thoughts and doubting His ability to speak to me through them.
We also have desires in our lives which we classify as dreams. These do not occur in our sleep but rather take form and shape as we consciously decide what our future should look like. There is certainly not one thing wrong with dreams--as long as they are realistic. But when we start dreaming of being the Queen of England, we are destined for a failed dream, unless you name happens to be Kate Middleton.
As the years pass, our dreams begin to look quite different from those of our early life. My dreams now center around the hopes I have for my children and grandchildren. The focus of my dreams has slowly evolved over a lifetime from what I desire my life to look like to dreams for those I love. I am no longer the center of my own universe--instead my relationships have become the center.
I still have dreams of travel, adventures, friends, and fun, but the most important dream or desire I have is to finish well. To leave behind a legacy of love and service. For others to say there was never any doubt of what was of prime importance in my life--God and those relationships He placed in my life.
So I am still dreaming---not big dreams of who I will be, how rich I will be, where I will live, how famous I will be---instead I am dreaming little dreams of great consequence.
Delight yourself in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.