EXPECTATIONS

My current reading time is being alternated between two books.  As always, I am spending more time on one than the other.  Both are easy reading and my normal time to read is after the day is done.  My sleeping is aided by calm - peaceful books.  This one is not really serene reading---but has caused me to pause and think.

Two of the main characters in the book are a mother and her teenage daughter.  As with most early teens, they can be filled with misplaced anger.  I have alternated between being perturbed with the mother over her selfish ways (at times) and empathy for her having lived through those early teen years with a daughter (A LONG TIME AGO).  At that point in my life, I developed a thick skin and tolerance for a bruised ego.  My own daughter will now tell you she realizes she was difficult.  AHHH--but today--she is a jewel.  (I digress)

As I read the story line it occurred to me many of our problems are created by our unrealistic expectations of others.  We neatly place them in one category (such as mother) without room for the many other hats they may wear nor the complex individuals we all are.  When we focus on the one part of an individual without considering all that encompasses who they are---we are asking for turmoil in our relationship.  

The same principle plays into any relationship we have.  If we look at a friend and only wonder why they are missing in action in our life, we are using tunnel vision and not considering all the other relationships in their lives.  I have come to realize we all can be at least a little selfish when placing unasked for expectations on others.  Our plan for another---could be the last thing they are considering---in the midst of their personal troubles and turmoil.  AND---what kind of friend/relation are we when we only look to the end of our nose?  THIS has caused me to stop---pause---and think.  Hopefully, the next time I am perturbed at anyone--I will stop and consider---what else is happening in their life.  

So it is with our relationship with God.  We have expectations of Him and when He is not responding to us in the manner we deem best--we are disappointed--perhaps angry.  We do not stop to consider the complexity of our God.  He is all knowing---all seeing---timeless- and His plans are always the best plan.  BUT because we possess feet of clay--we have unrealistic and misguided expectations based upon our needs.  We are looking once again at the king/queen of our universe and not at the broad picture.  Food for thought--as I begin a new day--

"Many plans are in a person's heart;

But the advice of the Lord will stand."

Proverbs 19:21